Needing space

We all need space in our lives - time to think, rest, recover from our every day lives and relationships.  

Sometimes, we need space from the people in our lives but it can be difficult to navigate this. 

Think about times and situations where you may have needed to have time away from your friends, partner, family etc.  What has shown you that you need this space? Indicators can be: 

• irritation, anger, unnecessary arguments

• dread at seeing those people

• distracted when together

• anxiety

• fatigue

• tight feelings in your body

• shallow breathing

• making excuses not to see that person - finding ways to spend more time at work for example

• Not returning calls or messages

• Avoiding social engagements

If this is becoming unsustainable, what are the ways to deal with this? 

1. Firstly, it starts with prioritising your needs and assessing why a particular situation or person causes you anxiety or irritation or even overwhelm?

   • Do you struggle to say no to requests?

   • Do you simply need time to rest

   • Do you feel you will miss out if you don't attend an event?

   • Do you feel obligated?

2. What actions can you take to address the answers?

   • Having an open conversation on your needs

   • Reducing your hours at work 

   • Having a regular habit of going to the park or for a walk

   • Being comfortable in saying no to requests

3. What obstacles are there to those actions?

   • A lack of confidence?

   • Discomfort around being assertive

   • You just don't know what to say?

   • Guilt?

If you struggle with prioritising your needs or need clarity on what needing space and self-care look like, coaching can help! I would like to talk further to you and help you find the new, stronger you!